This is all still a little raw for me, but a few days ago, my girlfriend and I split up. It was mutual, in a way- we both felt like things were stagnating in a place we didn't want to be in. Neither of us was enjoying the sex. We both felt taken advantage of, in different ways. I know she lied to me for months (she called it "managing" me)- she says I lied to her, though I'm still not clear what about. I felt like she was selfish, and… View More

Trigger warning: Abuse, mention of roots of Thanksgiving I tend to be fairly good at finding things to be grateful for every day, so in some… View More

So there's a club in San Francisco I have always had a soft spot for. It was dark, and a bit grungy, and the floor always felt stickier than it should beneath my heels. There… View More

Just in case I was feeling overly confident about where I stand in the BDSM "community", I found myself on the receiving end of event expulsion thanks to… View More

So a big part of this blog is talking about Personal Shit, right, including deep dark secrets that I hold in my heart (and clit).… View More

I know, I know, right, I talk about Orgy and Wallflowers and no doubt you think "bands of the 90's". And while I did wear a short floral dress and docs, I'm… View More

It's been a reaaaaally long time since I tried to write a poem. And honestly? Rhyming isn't my strong suit. But I wanted to write a response in the same style as the original work to critique… View More

Note: I talk in here about HIV/AIDs as it pertains mostly to white gay men, and white straight people. There's a lot more to be said on the topic of STIs pertaining to people of colour, particularly African… View More

I keep coming across posts that wax poetic about the good old days before we were all staring at computer screens. They’re mostly people my age, maybe a bit older, so we’re not that… View More

Trigger warning: frank discussion of suicide Ok. I've been sitting on these feelings for a long time, and some of my dear readers have probably heard me rant about this in person, but I have a bone to pick with some… View More