Introduction: Safe/Ward is getting to be rather a massive project, with a lot of posts, so if you're so inclined, please check out the other posts in the series: -I Never… View More

Project Unbreakable is an amazing project on Tumblr I've just… View More

(trigger warning for discussion/personal stories of nonconsent/abuse/rape) While I've been working on… View More

So I haven't updated for a couple of weeks, in part because I've been really busy planning for upcoming… View More

Trigger Warning: There is stuff on this list that could squick you out, or trigger you in some deep dark places. That's part of why people like these things, but also why it might be hard to read- clowns, dentistry, ageplay, these things stir up some crazy feelings and thoughts in us, visceral reactions. Some people like to play with that, others steer clear- either decision is a-ok!  I was on Facebook,… View More

Kink.com has built a reputation for being an ethical porn site who puts the models first and is great to work for. Many a battle against pornography, particularly BDSM pornography, has been fought and won because of their model policies, which set a high standard for how porn can be filmed. I personally struggled with that idea of "ethics" due to some of their policies about who they hire, the whole "virginity" debacle, and their depictions… View More

Just in case I was feeling overly confident about where I stand in the BDSM "community", I found myself on the receiving end of event expulsion thanks to… View More

When I opened my treasure chest from Tantus the Plunge Paddle was honestly the first thing I went for. A… View More

I've loved kitty play in various ways for years. I grew up a cat person, with cats as my friends and companions. If you've followed this blog for any length of time you'll know about Foucault, our adopted cat with extra toes, who we spoil rotten.… View More

I've been seeing a lot of frustration and anger about the 50 Shades of Grey trailer that went up at some point in the last... week, I guess? I don't know. I haven't watched it and I'm not interested. I already… View More