Category / fail at life

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physical touch in personal settings

It's odd, but since I've been back from Poland I've been perhaps overly aware of personal space. Like a feral cat, I become curious about human contact but easily spooked- a lack of sexual contact or context has left me unsure how to handle cuddling with my lovers. Work is easier. First, I'm usually the Domme, so I get to decide how much contact and it's on my terms. There's an end point, so if I set an expectation high I don't have to… View More

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under pressure

"It's easier to beg forgiveness than to ask permission". Is this true? Is this the way I've been operating? I wonder sometimes if I'm so interested in taking care of my needs and getting what I want that I steamroll over others. Actually, I don't wonder- I know it happens. I'm very sure of myself and what I want, and I think people cave. I mean, I can be very persuasive when there's something I want, and... well, as one of my sweeties… View More

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love dries up even faster than sperm

"Have you ever been in love? Horrible, isn't it? It makes you so vulnerable. It opens your chest and it opens your heart and it means someone can get inside you and mess you up. You build up all these defenses. You build up this whole armor, for years, so nothing can hurt you, then one stupid person, no different from any other stupid person, wanders into your stupid life. You give them a piece of you. They don't ask for it. They do something… View More

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hey, jealousy

There's a big monogamy vs polyamory brainfuck going on in my head at the moment, probably because I'm as single as I've even been. I've been in the poly world since I was 18, if not a bit before, really. I always had multiple relationships going on, whether it be via cheating or polyamory or serial monogamy. I know that my eyes tend to wander, and the rest of me follows close behind. Never mind that my work requires I have… View More

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monogamous, a mentalist, or making sense?

I have spent a lot of my adult like identifying as polyamorous. I've amended that over the last year to say "yes, well, or at least nonmonogamous". But I've always had something that got in my way- first it was "but I can't find a partner willing to commit as a primary, boohoo", then it was… View More

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"Seeking" Derangement: Sleepless (and Forever Alone) In Austin

"Man Will Pay Good Money for Thin, White Girlfriend" headlines stated when they were being kind(ish), while other news outlets dubbed him "the worst person in the world" and "a… View More

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Key Party. Achievement? Not Unlocked.

So for my 31st birthday I decided I wanted to set up a queer key party. I spent months… View More

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Intimacy Level Up

WARNING: THIS IS A FUNNY, KINDA GROSS STORY ABOUT SEX AND YES I HAVE GOTTEN CONSENT TO SHARE MOM AND DAD IF YOU DON'T WANT TO KNOW ABOUT MY SEX LIFE LEAVE NOW Ok with that out of the… View More