This last week, I had a meltdown. The Boy and I almost broke up (twice), communication seemed to be at a standstill, everything was just Too Much. I cracked, and… View More

Trigger warning: Abuse, mention of roots of Thanksgiving I tend to be fairly good at finding things to be grateful for every day, so in some… View More

I've been turning this over in my head for a while, so these are just some thoughts, really, but with "why you need to date a crazy girl" going Kinky & Popular on Fetlife, and as a woman who thought being… View More

Trigger Warning: This discusses abuse, why someone would stay in an abusive situation, self-blame, loss of friends. It's part of a series about losing… View More

  So. So I've been quiet for 10 months about naming my abusive ex (Michael… View More

Just in case I was feeling overly confident about where I stand in the BDSM "community", I found myself on the receiving end of event expulsion thanks to… View More

  [gallery type="slideshow"] This weekend I, and many other people I consider chosen family, said goodbye to an era and a venue where I came of age, forged the person I am today, and found, for the first time, a home. Tears were shed, hearts felt broken, we held each other to tell stories about the beautiful moments we had enjoyed. It felt a little bare already, a bit naked, as the curtained and draped decor had already… View More

I first met Polly when I was 21, fresh to San Francisco and to sexy parties. I was accustomed to dark spaces with red light, places where you were admonished not to talk too loudly, where the uniform of "sexy" was a limited palette… View More

Update: I have enough to buy my ticket but could still use help for transport! I have not yet been to the The… View More

I've just come home from an intense 6 day trip in Toronto, home of the… View More