"Don't feed the trolls". I get told this a lot. Don't argue with trolls, Kitty, don't keep fighting with… View More

Kink.com has built a reputation for being an ethical porn site who puts the models first and is great to work for. Many a battle against pornography, particularly BDSM pornography, has been fought and won because of their model policies, which set a high standard for how porn can be filmed. I personally struggled with that idea of "ethics" due to some of their policies about who they hire, the whole "virginity" debacle, and their depictions… View More

2. 12:41 Saturday October 20   sometimes it still hurts. but sometimes, when i think about everything in context i get so angry i want to shoot you in the forehead with a bullet made of the engagement ring you bought me after asking me for the third time. lying to me for the third time. and you left our three year relationship via email while at work and then had… View More

Trigger warning: Abuse, mention of roots of Thanksgiving I tend to be fairly good at finding things to be grateful for every day, so in some… View More

  So. So I've been quiet for 10 months about naming my abusive ex (Michael… View More

Just in case I was feeling overly confident about where I stand in the BDSM "community", I found myself on the receiving end of event expulsion thanks to… View More

So I just got an alarming and apologetic email from Patreon, which you can read below. Apparently PayPal threatened to freeze all creator pages unless adult content was blocked from using PayPal via Patreon. I don't know how many, if any, of you used PayPal as a funding source,… View More

Edited to add: I've now been blocked from sending private messages. Facebook meanwhile has not responded to numerous complaints and reports. Edited to add: this person is STILL being allowed to harass me via Facebook, while anything I have written about it has been flagged and I've been banned whether I name her or not. I am also not allowed to BLOCK her. Despite the fact this is… View More

“There are two kinds of evil people in this world. Those who do evil stuff and those who see evil stuff being done and don't try to stop it.” -Janis Ian Judging from the popularity of using femme-on-femme makeouts to sell products… View More

I woke up yesterday morning to my Twitter in an uproar. That’s reasonably common in my world, as many of the people I follow are marginalized and there’s a lot to be angry about. Turns out that the… View More