Trigger Warning: There is stuff on this list that could squick you out, or trigger you in some deep dark places. That's part of why people like these things, but also why it might be hard to read- clowns, dentistry, ageplay, these things stir up some crazy feelings and thoughts in us, visceral reactions. Some people like to play with that, others steer clear- either decision is a-ok!  I was on Facebook,… View More

I've been turning this over in my head for a while, so these are just some thoughts, really, but with "why you need to date a crazy girl" going Kinky & Popular on Fetlife, and as a woman who thought being… View More

I was asked to do a debate with a (thankfully polite and sensible) radical feminist about ethical pornography- could it exist, and what would that look… View More

So a big part of this blog is talking about Personal Shit, right, including deep dark secrets that I hold in my heart (and clit).… View More

Note: this was written as a guide specifically for cisgendered men, though cisgendered men are not the only people who identify as having dicks, or are the only ones who can benefit from this… View More

When I was working as a Domme, I got a fair number of requests from men who want to be “sissified”, “forced” into frilly girly undies and makeup and turned into an “objectified slut”. Sissification is one of those things I encounter… View More

I've just come home from an intense 6 day trip in Toronto, home of the… View More

First, a little bit about me. I'm an American who has lived on one coast or the other, who has spent extended time in… View More

Note: I talk in here about HIV/AIDs as it pertains mostly to white gay men, and white straight people. There's a lot more to be said on the topic of STIs pertaining to people of colour, particularly African… View More

UPDATE: We do have a new campaign set… View More