Remote controlled toys can be fun, as I learned with my first one- a vibrator that went off every time a mobile phone around me got a message or a call, which I got as a present… View More

I was reading a thread on that… View More

Mmm. I smell like a delicious dessert, thanks to giving the Mango Vanilla massage candle a go this afternoon.… View More

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I have been waking up in my bed alone for what feels like forever. In reality, it's been 6 months, with a short 2 week respite in the end, and… View More

I've just come across the toys over at Va Va Voom, thanks to a giveaway that they're doing. These look really… View More

I love Christmas. I'm a sucker for all of it- the sparkly ornaments, the candy canes, mince pies and pine needles (and the mince pies with pine sugar on top, omg!). I'm even one of those demon children who enjoys Christmas… View More

So I will be giving a Skype interview about sex and disability at this special edition of Mutiny- if you're in the UK, you'll want to check this out, because it's going to be epic. EPIC. And it's cheap! I love critical sexology, it kept my brain alert and happy and the people from there and Mutiny both are smart and sexy. Check it out! **********************************Mutiny… View More

Yeeehaw! You know I had to do that. ::ahems:: I really loved the idea of the Rodeoh harness when I first came across it. To have butch,… View More

I have a really tough time accepting service. I mean, I kink hard for it (I have a fantasy where I have a ladies' valet who can serve tea, pack a bag for me and give me Jeeves style advice) and I used to be a service submissive… View More

There's tons of sites out there that offer erotic content, where you can see people engaging in all sorts of kinks, fetishes, and… View More

Ok, ok, I know. The bacon thing is out of control. It's some crazy hipsterized meat candy meme now, and everyone's hopping on it. I get it. But I have liked bacon all along- it's never been uncool, bacon, because it's… View More

Everyone wants sex toys for the holidays, right? If not as presents, as ways to get through the stress-inducing madness of crowded stores, cranky drivers and, of course, avoiding "Little Drummer Boy". After… View More

Thanksgiving is tomorrow, with its… View More

Strap on harnesses are a thing of mine, but I've had a really hard time finding one that's both femme and… View More

I'm a big reader of all sorts of smut, but often feel disappointed that so many books about kink have male dominants and female submissives. I mean, yay, glad that works out for… View More

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Part of a series discussing whorephobia: Part 1,… View More

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November 20th is the Transgender Day of Remembrance, a day that was started twelve years ago to honor the memory of Rita Hester, a Black trans woman who was stabbed to death in Massachusetts. Tonight there will be an event in the… View More

So a while back I had an experiment in butchness. Not just silly male drag, like you see in this image of me as a gym teacher (working out… View More

As I'm a Bay Area based girl with a lot of ties/readers/tied up readers in the UK, I thought it might be a good idea to start letting some guests post about UK events/workshops that are of interest! This is a review by Penelope Star of a workshop she attended. It was offered by Bristol-based Pomegranate Boutique, a lovely women-focused, environmentally aware… View More

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So every holiday I participate in a group called Holiday Wishes, where people grant other people's wishes, from small to pipe… View More

I was poking around in the blogs over at the Good Men Project when I found an article entitled "My Father Made Me Want to Cheat on My… View More

I'm really happy to let you all know that I won TWO awards in the People's Choice Awards for Real Sex Toy… View More

Wow. Just... wow. My boy sent me a link to a preview of this fascinating comic called "Our Love is… View More

So with all the various things going on around abuse, survivors and giving people a voice, I wanted to give a shout out to Bawdy Storytelling and Stories 2 Stop Rape as… View More

I'm often asked by friends if I have a recommendation… View More

So while I was ramping up to visit my parents and boy in Massachusetts, I got an email from a member of the… View More

So if you've read reviews on my blog for any length of time you know that I really love reviewing toys that are kind of offbeat and different, whether that be the nature of their design, something clever they do, or how one uses… View More

As much as Furrygirl drives me crazy sometimes, I do like… View More

The Consent Culture Logo,by Tom Ker-Oldfield Introduction: Safe/Ward is… View More

I'm going to start doing some blog posts that'll be about troubleshooting when things go wrong in the sexy sphere, and I'm going to start calling them "mistakes were made". Have you had an issue you need solved? Send me an email at… View More

I haven’t blogged for the last couple of weeks because I’ve been in Boston visiting my boy and my parents. Obviously,… View More

I read a lot of erotica, and I have no shame about where or when I'll pull a book of smut out- there's erotic anthologies in my bathroom, by my bedside, in my purse, in the car. They usually… View More