I'm sitting in Soho at Sh's flat, snuggled into a bed that's an oasis of warmth in an otherwise cold room. It's sort of strange, really, as I haven't been here overnight since that last horrible night in January, before I flew back to California- he's… View More

"When you approach me in public, you are Schrödinger’s Rapist. You may or may not be a man who would commit… View More

We've all either heard it said to us, or been that person to say it to someone else... "get a job". In SF, it's usually followed with "ya fucking hippie", granted, but the sentiment remains the… View More

First and foremost- you see this thing? Do you see it?? I want one. SO BADLY. It's like a pretty little… View More

Out in London, I had a friend. I don't honestly recall how I met her, but she was really neat. Intelligent, curious, fun to be around, go shopping with, get coffee with... just a really lovely girl. She wanted to get into pro Domming again. She had done it before, but wanted to give it a go again in London. So I introduced her to some people, taught her… View More

I have a lot of patience. I've laughed when people have said I have the patience of a saint, but I will generally take a lot of bullshit in stride. It's taken me a long… View More

I'm not entirely sure what to do with myself. Sh was here- came to Burning Man, and spent some time in San Francisco, so we spent a fair bit of time together. In fact, I encouraged him not to read this blog til afterwards, since I had written some pretty raw stuff and didn't want us to just argue about who did what to whom. I was terrified, walking through the walkway to the arrivals lounge to meet him, totally unsure how I… View More

Reading webcomics is something I often indulge in, as a geek. My favourites are xkcd, Sinfest, Wondermark, and a softer world, but I also read others. Some of them are in better taste than others, for sure. But I was pretty annoyed when I came across… View More

After a couple of obviously confused emails from men "just seeing" if I wanted to play with them and their "girlfriend", I have a couple of nibbles on a recently posted Craigslist ad. Only one, however, who makes the effort to 1) show she read my ad by referring to it and 2) spell. We'll see what else slips through the cracks. The whole idea of this personal ad was to have a recent casual encounter hookup story. What does a… View More

So I came back from Burning Man (which I'll tell you all about in detail later) to find in my inbox an article written by the incredibly pompous Julie Bindel in G3 (a free UK lesbian mag) about how lesbian strippers are leading women to "act like men" and be abusive or some… View More