I am a fat girl. I'm also a hot girl, a clever girl, a sweet girl, an evil girl, and many other things. But none of those other words seems to make people writhe uncomfortably in their seats as the word fat. But I *like* the word fat, actually. Fat implies fruitfulness, and richness. It's succinct. It allows me to take up space, and I don't apologize for it anymore- not to my family, not to my friends, certainly not to my… View More

So there's that new facebook meme going around, you know the… View More

Well, it's been about a month since my last confess... oh, no, wait, that's not right. I've done it at last- I've moved to London! And I'm getting married tomorrow! Holy shit! Let's see, to catch up- -went to Vegas with Vapours, which was fun in some ways and hard in others. Sadly our relationship didn't survive the trip- but our friendship has, so that's good. Mono and I also split up, which was painful, but… View More

I was reading the Queer Fat Femme's… View More

Today is the International Day to End Violence Against Sex Workers. Today, a man in Utah was sentenced to jail time for raping a Utah college student. He was also accused of killing, not one, but three prostitutes... but the case was thrown out because a witness lacked credibility. In the US, it's hard for me not to feel bitter and wonder if it was that, or just that the… View More

Ok, now that I've distracted you with hot girl... (and doesn't she need to come with sushi..?) A couple weeks ago I had a… View More

I woke up today and my facebook tarot card was Death. I know, I know, Death, not the scary card, not really (and thank god it wasn't the Tower, right?) but just a symbol of change, of things rebirthing, newness, new directions, the death of that which is now gone and the birth of something new. (Actually, typing that out, I mistyped "birth" to make that sentence "the… View More

So I've written about girlfriend experiences before, because it's a dynamic I find really interesting- men wanting space to be vulnerable, and talk about what they're going through, to a woman who will pet their head and tell them it'll be ok.. even if they pay her. And there's that question of, can you maintain that intimacy while still maintaining the… View More

I don't even know if I can begin to describe how amazing this last weekend was. For now, I'll just say this: -had a lot of fun latex browsing with a very cute girl, who I'm going to call Tm (typhoid mary, I think she'll approve)- I enjoy hanging out with her, because she's similarly into cephalopods, geeky things, and clothes, and she's gorgeous and smart. Hanging out with her has been really fun and I feel lucky to have her in… View More

There's a big monogamy vs polyamory brainfuck going on in my head at the moment, probably because I'm as single as I've even been. I've been in the poly world since I was 18, if not a bit before, really. I always had multiple relationships going on, whether it be via cheating or polyamory or serial monogamy. I know that my eyes tend to wander, and the rest of me follows close behind. Never mind that my work requires I have… View More