(title from the Violent Femmes) Breakups, while painful, are also an excuse for me to delve whole-heartedly into my favourite breakup songs. I have so many, particularly as I… View More

This is all still a little raw for me, but a few days ago, my girlfriend and I split up. It was mutual, in a way- we both felt like things were stagnating in a place we didn't want to be in. Neither of us was enjoying the sex. We both felt taken advantage of, in different ways. I know she lied to me for months (she called it "managing" me)- she says I lied to her, though I'm still not clear what about. I felt like she was selfish, and… View More

Trigger Warning: There is stuff on this list that could squick you out, or trigger you in some deep dark places. That's part of why people like these things, but also why it might be hard to read- clowns, dentistry, ageplay, these things stir up some crazy feelings and thoughts in us, visceral reactions. Some people like to play with that, others steer clear- either decision is a-ok!  I was on Facebook,… View More

“When you have nobody you can make a cup of tea for, when nobody needs you, that's when I think life is… View More

Crossposted on Fetlife and Consent… View More

Greta Christina posted an invitation for sex worker voices to be… View More

It's been a little while since I posted a toy review, but I've been enjoying this particular toy on my own. Maybe I didn't want to share how much I liked it? Who knows! But it's so perfect for this springtime weather with its little pink butterfly, so it seemed like… View More

In case you're hiding under a rock, you'll know that I am now writing for the… View More

An article was posted on April 1st by Samantha Brick, a writer working for that lovely rag the Daily Mail, wherein she complained about how other… View More

There's an interesting blog on images of women… View More