When the boy first told me he was interested in ageplay, and particularly in diapers, I was a little freaked out. More than that, I was really upset at how the entire scene seemed focused on male fantasy fulfillment- there was no real information about how to be a caregiver in an ageplay or AB/DL scene. I picked up the two books that were out there on the subject- the Toybag guide and the Power Exchange guide- but found them to focus, again, very much on what it was like to be the little girl or little boy. I had some experience with Daddy/girl stuff, but it was definitely more on the roleplay, kinky side than on the ageplay, age-of-innocence side.

Then Miss Penny Barber, lovely woman she is, sent me a copy of her book, "The Age Play & Diaper Fetish Handbook". And it is AMAZING. Absolutely ideal. It's a great mix of practical advice on how to talk to your partner, how to put diapers on for various needs and body types, and how to role play various roles. I loved all the tips and suggestions- it actually gave me a lot of ideas! And I also really appreciated that Penny addressed some of the concerns I had, like about dealing with psychological issues via ageplay and the worry for caregivers of burning out. This has become my favourite book on the subject of AB/DL and ageplay.

There's 5 sections- the introduction, which covers things like how to meet someone into your kink and how to talk to a lover about it; a chapter on roles, caregiver and ward, masculine and feminine (and I appreciated that she makes a point of encouraging players to not feel restricted by gender); a chapter just on diapers, discussing cloth vs disposable, how to fold and use them, and how to take care of them or wash them; a chapter on ageplay that gives different ideas for discipline and activities to do during a scene, including how to introduce sexual elements and how to do it long distance (which may come in handy for the boy and I soon); and finally, a chapter on BDSM and diapers, which explores that aspect of play. There's also a glossary and a list of resources that pretty much fills the rest of the possible gaps.

I'd discuss it more, but actually, after reading this book, I decided I wanted to explore the Daddy slave persona with the boy- and so I am marching us off to bed because, well, it's time for my story!

Check out  "The Age Play & Diaper Fetish Handbook" here and check out a trailer for it here! Thank you Miss Penny Barber for the chance to look this over- it's been a massive influence. And it's great for combating the crap ageplayers and AB/DLs have to deal with, like this bullshit from Dan Savage or this bit on Jezebel. Penny's made it accessible- and for that I am eternally grateful.