This presentation is for community members and leaders looking to understand and address sexual, physical, and emotional abuse within communities that practice BDSM. By striving to create a comprehensive workshop on how to recognize and address abuse within the BDSM community, we hope to help create a safe space for WIITWD. This workshop will incorporate roleplays as well as brainstorming- be ready to participate!

By actively taking a stand against abusive behaviors we can act to reduce the frequency of predatory actions.

Discussion points:

-what does community mean, and how does that confer responsibility
-why “but they weren’t part of the community” is dangerous
-don’t assume- issues of gender and orientation
-discussing negotiation and consent, both personal and public parties
-telling someone vs telling on someone
-how to recognize abuse
-the subtlety of abuse
-how to speak to an abuse victim
-understanding and recognizing trauma responses
-the importance of training DMs/hosts about handling abuse
-creating safe space to speak up
-how to confront an accused abuser- it’s the behavior not the person
-yellow cards vs red cards
-acknowledging positive behaviors
-where the law stands
-providing support and education, with a focus on “don’t abuse”, not “don’t get abused”
-resources to have in playspaces

Now with a great bunch of raffle items (free entry!) thanks to Vixen Creations, Filament Magazine, Crash Pad, Babeland, Cyber Dyke, Snarky McFuckbuttons, Meet the Mayhems, Threshold at Mission Control, Madison Young, and Cleis Press!

*thanks to Tom Ker-Oldfield for the amazing logo for Consent Culture!*http://tomkeroldfield.com/