I am in love with the dandy aesthetic. In love. I adore that rakish type of person, whether male of female- suave, seductive, a little bit evil. And I like even better having this force of nature on my leash, under my spell. But what sort of leash would appeal to the dandy's desire for decadence while not being incredibly forward with it? Not every occasion suits a collar, after all.

The Incoqnito necktie Babeland kindly sent my way is the ideal accessory for this unique kind of madness. On a man, it looks interesting and different without being overly flashy- on a woman, it looks chic. It wasn't too wide or too narrow, thus making the genderfuck potential pretty flexible-and the metal knot was just genius.

What's so special about a necktie, you ask? Well, this one transforms from a tie into a leash and collar, which I think is just brilliant. There's an extra bit of fabric firmly stitched onto the bottom layer of the tie to work as a handle, and the part that goes around the neck has hidden flap pieces that fold out to give more surface area to the neck (thus making it safer to use). Plus there's the added advantage of being able to slip it on- there's nothing to actually tie, which means it's great for those lazy but fashionable dandies!

The material is a poly/rayon blend, which I have to say I was glad for- had it been silk it would've been very sensitive to oils (including natural body oils), and that would've made it harder to use. The tie is always black, but the metal bit comes in rose gold or silver. I liked the silver myself. It's 24" long and fits a large variety of necks, from 10" to 26", so it's good for either femme or butch use. It comes in a discreet black box, neatly folded up, with some instructions to help you get a handle on it.

I think this has quickly become one of my favourite toys to have in my toybox or costume closet! As someone who enjoys D/s but doesn't always want to scare the horses, this is a perfect option for someone like me. Elegant, practical, our little secret.

Get one for your next dress up do at Babeland!