So recently (a couple of weekends ago) I got to host another Ladies High Tea and Pornography Society- one of the first in a really long time. I used to theme them- sci fi parodies, hentai, movie remakes- so this time I went with ethical porn, something I've developed a hard on for in the past few years!

For this High Tea, ethical porn was taken to mean pornography produced with the pleasure of the participants in mind- porn that did not depend on male-gaze shooting techniques- porn that showed body/gender/sexual orientation diversity- porn that allows the performers to have a say in how the action progresses and what happens.

With that theme in mind, we watched quite a few things- "Curse of Macbeth", "Bordello", "Roulette", "Billy Castro Does the Mission", "Post Apocalyptic Cowgirls" and  "Ladies of the Night". I had brought a bunch with me from my last trip to San Francisco and was excited to see what the ladies thought of it all! We got through so much porn that we ran out and ended up watching "Heads Up: The Official Guide to Fellatio" as well!

I get asked a lot what Ladies High Tea and Porn is like. Well, many of the ladies dress up, though it's not required, and everyone brings something to share- scones and jam, tea and cookies, cupcakes and cocktails. We've always had it as someone's house, so it's cozy and comfy!

This time we had a really lush place thanks to one of the lovely ladies, with a giant daybed that really made watching the films snuggly and relaxed. We had a great many cocktails, giggled and made fun of (or watched in rapt interest) the porn.

I had a fantastic time, giving a little intro to each film and explaining why I liked it or what made it special. It was really nice to have a space that was women-centred without it being serious or strictly political. I mean, I like those spaces too, but god it's great to have such a space where I'm chilling out, not angry!

Hopefully I'll be running one in SF and we'll run a webcam to one going on in London. That'd be awesome. I'm really grateful we got one together before I go back. It was a femme haven, and one that was sorely needed.

Of course, I can't tell you all that happened there. Let's just say it was a good time. ;)

(photos by AnaMorphic)