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COSRT: Beyond the Leather Couch: Professional Kink as Therapeutic Exploration
July 13, 10am-5pm
Regent’s College, London
Kinksters and therapists have a lot in common – a fascination with the human psyche, a thirst for uncovering new knowledge… and a historical fondness for leather furniture! But why would a person seeking to examine their sexual history and desires choose to go to a professional dominant instead of to a counsellor? Who are the professional dominants they go to, and how do they guide these intrapersonal explorations? In my presentation for the College of Sexual and Relationship Therapists, I will address these questions and attempt to peel back some of the mystery of my work as a prodomme – and how it often has therapeutic applications/impact.
Consent Culture Chat-up
July 13, 7:30-9:30
The Lounge at St Christopher’s Inn, 121 Borough High Street
Still hammering out the details, but there’ll be some sort of discussion/meetup about Consent Culture and how it relates to lots of different things, somewhere in London. Expect it to be a lot of geekery/critique/altsex with a collection of excellent academically minded folks! More details as I have them.
Coterie Social Salon: Sex Tips from a Sex Worker
July 16, 7:30pm-9:30pm
The Green Man (First Floor), 36 Riding House Street, W1W 7EP
Bringing back this popular workshop, I’ll be teaching “Tantalizing Bedroom Tips, Tricks and Saucy Bedside Secrets”!
I will be discussing a variation of sex techniques, from how to talk about and have safer sex while still maintaining the erotic flow, to giving (and getting!) the best oral sex you can. Let’s talk about kissing techniques, erogenous zones beyond the obvious, and stimulating *all* of the senses. Get some new takes on some old standards, along with some possibilities you may not have considered before! Come prepared with an open mind and learn how to you could begin to explore pornography, dirty talk, and semi-public sex. Take whatever interests you, and leave the rest!
Sh! Women’s Store: How To Ask for It: A Workshop on Sexy Negotiation
July 18, 6:30pm-8pm
57 Hoxton Square, London
Everyone likes to have hot sexual play that gets them off- but not everyone knows how to ask for what they want and need to make that work for them. If you’re not sure what turns you on, how do you communicate that to someone else? And who really wants to go through pages of sterile checklists?
Let me teach you how to make negotiation sexy, from body language to dirty talk- and learn why communication makes the best lubricant. Expect to learn and have a laugh while we navigate the complicated world of consent culture and flirtation!
BiCon 2013: Safe/Ward: Combating Abuse in Altsex Communities
July 18th-21st (I’ll be there 19th-21st)
John Macintyre Conference Centre, University of Edinburgh
This presentation is for community members and leaders looking to understand and address sexual, physical, and emotional abuse within communities that practice alternative sexualities- polyamory, BDSM, tantra, etc. While these communities hold consent very highly, they still struggle with how to prevent and deal with abusive situations – victim-blaming and silencing are still common. By deconstructing some of the behaviours and attitudes within altsex communities, and giving practical solutions for event organizers and partygoers alike, I’ll explain how to maintain safe space while still having sexy fun.
This is my first time going to BBW Fanfest but I’m really excited to walk my first porn red carpet! Also bouncing up and down to be having a Lesbian Curves sleepover party with Courtney Trouble (QueerPorn TV, Indie Porn Revolution) and Betty Blac (who I performed with on CrashPad Series and will be doing a Lesbian Curves: Rough Sex scene with, so y’all can look forward to that!) They’re both up for quite a few awards at the Fanfest so vote for them and support queer porn, will you? I’ll also have a bunch of photos I’ll be signing! Lesbian Curves won Hottest Dyke Film at the Feminist Porn Awards so I’m thrilled to get to help represent it with some sexy porn femmes. My life, it does not suck.
Dark Odyssey Surrender: Manic Pixie Dream Domme: Embracing Frivolity in Kink & Co-MC for the 2nd Little Miss/Mister Little Pageant!
Dark dungeons filled with stern looking people in leather with tall boots who never smile. Well, that’s certainly a kink for a lot of people- but what about the rest of us?
If you felt constrained by that archetype because there was no glitter… if people think the novelty fetishes you add on fetlife are a joke, but you actually DO My Little Ponyplay… if you ever watched Garden State and identified with Natalie Portman’s character, but figured Zach Braff really needed some behavioural modification and a spanking… perhaps the Manic Pixie Dream Dom/me is for you. Let me open up your eyes to a world outside of the Serius Bizness of “twue” BDSM. More giggling in the dungeon can be YOURS!
I’ll also be the co-MC for the 2nd Little Miss/Mister Little Pageant at Dark Odyssey: Surrender this year, which I’m very excited about. I’ll be wearing a suit and big, big hair.
Consent Culture Tour
Cities Visited: San Francisco (OpenSF, Center for Sex and Culture, Dark Odyssey: Surrender 2012, Queericulum 2013), Oakland (Feelmore 510), Boston (Local Burner Community), Austin (Local Kink Community), Washington DC (MomentumCon 2012)
This series of presentations is for community members and leaders looking to understand and address sexual, physical, and emotional abuse within communities that practice BDSM. While these communities hold consent very highly, they stillstruggle with how to prevent and deal with abusive situations- victim-blaming and silencing is still common. By deconstructing some of the behaviours and attitudes within the kink community, and giving practical solutions for event organizers and partygoers alike, Kitty Stryker will explain how to maintain safe space while still having sexy fun. By actively taking a stand against abusive behaviors we can act to reduce the frequency of predatory actions. Under this umbrella: Safe/Ward: Combating Abuse Within Alternative Communities, How to Ask for It: Negotiation for Play Parties